What does she really mean by these words?


"I need my space"


Chapter III





Reason: 

To be in a relationship with such a girl is a complicated thing, as they demand a perfect understanding of their problems and a guy they don't want just because he is a perfectly good object to show off. It won’t matter if a guy does very cute stuff or looks like a Greek God or loves her like a mythical hero; she would any-day prefer a normal average looking guy who can just tell her about her problems when she hasn't even revealed them, or could figure out what she is feeling inside or what she's thinking about.
Now, when they haven't met such a guy and are in a relationship; such type of girls demands their space.

The second type, it is pretty obvious that they don't enter into the relationship because of the guys' brains; either (mostly) he is very good-looking or it is out of some non-understandable reason like 'he loved her very much so she couldn't say no', or 'they were very good friends and he forced her into this', and so on.

The thing about majority of girls is that they do take relationships seriously, and hence, compromising becomes a routine and overlooking flaws a habit. She would constantly have problems over his behavior and believe me she will talk about them with her friends, but never with him. She gives herself reasons like he loves me so much. In this case, a girl never uses this statement in front of her boyfriend, but frequently uses it in front of her friends, and most observantly, in front of a selected group of people she considers as smart, and opens herself to. 
Note: It's very simple to join that group of people in her eyes. All you have to do is: 
- Always listen to her, without giving any expression except of curious understanding, as if you are minutely studying something.
- Push deeper into her thoughts (another way of saying: invading into her privacy just by asking more questions picked out from her own sentences, so that it seems like it's a part of a conversation initiated by her only)
They say "I need my space", whenever their relationship with their boyfriends go anywhere away from being two lovable teddy-bears i.e. whenever:
- He reminds her that he is dumb.
- She meets a smart guy, and the comparison makes her realize that he's dumb.
- She reads in some story or novel about some character that pretty much reminds her of the image of an ideal man. 
- He tries to control her life.
In this case, the girl literally becomes self-assured and would never reveal that she has even the slightest of wants or needs to have a man in her life that is capable of telling her what is right or wrong, or correct her decisions, or guide her in any way.

What does she really mean by these words?

Chapter I.


“My boyfriend is really cute” (in behavioral context)

She is saying her boyfriend is childish, immature and a cartoon type figure.

Why a cartoon type figure?

Of course he provides her with a lot of laughs; he is very much in love with her, and does extremely cute stuff; but his role in her life in not of a man but of a child. So it implies, and even though she will never admit, but whenever she needs a guiding and a righteous piece of advice, her boyfriend is the last person she goes to. That doesn't mean she doesn't tell him of her problem. He is always there for her support, but never can be a problem solver. A girl never opens her true self in front of him because subconsciously she always knows that he won't understand.

Of course, being amazingly cute does entertain a girl, and doing movie-type of stuff always reminds her of your love.

Always remember: This kind of stuff is not worthless, but it is absolutely not needed. A woman is always bound to be influenced by a figure of a perfect classic man (No doubts there). The true way into a woman's heart is through the deepest corners of her mind; so never even bother to entertain her trying to captivate her heart.

For example: You must have noticed around you very often, - guys send flowers to girls everyday, or he is immediately buying her anything she lays her eyes upon; guys trying to be desperately surprising by planning an entire event and showing to others that they have no life; guys suddenly becoming mythical heroes and fighting anyone who challenges their male instincts in front of a girl, when in private they can't kill a mosquito.

Solution: First of all, all such stuff can be directly replaced by an artistic event. For example: If you buy her a phone, - of course it's going to be an expensive one - it will always remind her of the phone, and not you. Meanwhile, if you create something as small as a letter, it can only and only remind her of you, regardless of how bad you have written. Why?

Because behind a creation there is always an effort; stuff like writing a song, or writing a letter, they all show a personal effort; now the second thing that makes these creations supreme is - you picked up art. Art is a universal weapon for every lover if he can implement it. If you can't write a song, try poetry, if you can't do that, try simple stuff like making her a CD full of her favorite love songs.

Second of all, if you can just give her an insight about her life, it equals a thousand bucks spent on some dress or shoes or a bag or a teddy bear from some gallery. Try to be patient; don't try to buy her out because even though you make her happy by doing all of that, you are never going close to her heart. You are just becoming an amusement or a gift shop rather than being a figure she could respect, or might feel to be the closest person in her life.